Best dating advices for all the single ladies


Looking for that special someone, but not sure how to play the dating game? Here’s the need-to-know advice from the relationship experts.

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A little compassion can go a long way

Maia Szalavitz, author of Born for Love, says that kindness is one of the top qualities sought by both men and women. “Though it’s obvious that guys walking dogs or [playing with] babies attract women, men also seek evidence of nurturing,” she says.

Break your routine to meet new people

Once you’re out of school – with its seemingly limitless supply of drunken encounters and early morning regret – it gets harder to meet people. Dating expert Kateryna Spiwak recommends taking up new hobbies and interests, joining clubs, volunteering, networking, and trying singles services. “Even eating in new restaurants and walking through different neighbourhoods can bring you face-to-face with the person of your dreams,” she says.

Break your routine to meet new people (via Eudaimonia Recovery Homes)

Be aware of your body language

Actions often speak louder than words, so be conscious of what you’re conveying with physical cues. Sex therapist Dr. Teesha Morgan recommends sitting with an “open” body (turned towards your date with arms uncrossed) and trying to subtly mirror his movements. Casual touching of his arms or back can score points, but don’t overdo it. You’re going for the “sensual subliminal” vibe, not the “I just got out of prison” vibe.

Ask questions

Sometimes, it’s easy to get so wrapped up in whether you’re making a good impression that you forget to engage the person across the table. “Someone who asks questions is seen as interesting and attractive on first dates,” says Terri Orbuch, relationship advisor and author of 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great. But like a friendly game of badminton, it should be an easy, back-and-forth volley; if your date starts spiking the shuttlecock, maybe pass on dessert.

Be aware of your body language (via Mental Floss)

Don’t talk about your ex

“No one wants to wonder whether their new partner is still smitten with his or her ex, or whether they, too, will end up on the receiving end of a mouthful of hatred,” says Morgan. So check your breakup baggage along with your coat, and instead spend the first few dates explaining your issues with your mother. Just kidding. Relax and simply try to get a decent picture of who your date is.

Be who you are

We’ve had it drilled into our heads that playing hard to get is the way to land Mr. Right—or, at least, Mr. Refuses to Meet My Friends Even Though We’ve Been Dating for Six Months. “But by acting hard-to-get, when in fact what you truly crave is closeness, consistency and stability, you stand a good chance of attracting the exact person who is least likely to make you happy—someone who prefers to keep you at arms length,” say Rachel Heller and Dr. Amir Levine, authors of Attached.

Be who you are (via Entrepreneur)

Give the dude a chance

A lot of ladies have lists of the qualities they want in a mate, either tucked away in some corner of their brain or perhaps drunkenly scrawled on a cocktail napkin after too many fingers of bourbon. But Spiwak says such lists can be unrealistic and limiting. “Don’t get too hung up on your list,” she advises. “Chemistry’s unpredictable, so you might find it where you least expect it.”

Look for similarities

The attraction of opposites is a common dating mantra—not to mention the basis of an excellent pop song by Paula Abdul—but that doesn’t mean it’s true. “It is very common to be attracted to the wrong type of person,” says Orbuch, “[and] typically this happens because you are fascinated with people who aren’t like you.” But studies surrounding relationship longevity indicate that you’re more likely to be happy with someone who shares your values and attitudes.

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