Common Mistakes That Are Ruining Your Marriage – Part 1

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Common mistakes that are ruining your marriage - part 1
Common mistakes that are ruining your marriage - part 1

Nobody’s perfect, but it seems there are some mistakes that have more dire consequences on your love relationship than others. Make your marriage a success by avoiding these relationship traps.

Trying to change your partner

Trying to change your partner
Trying to change your partner

“If they love me enough, they’ll change to please me.” So many believe that they can and will change their partner. It’s only a matter of time. They say, “If he loves me enough, he’ll change that small thing to please me.” But to your partner, that “small thing” isn’t so small. Even if they do try to change to please you, very often they become resentful. “You don’t love me for myself, but for the person you want me to be,” they say. And it’s true. When you try to change them they feel you don’t really love them. You just want to turn them into someone to fill your needs.

Feeling like you’re a failure in relationships

Feeling like you're a failure in relationships
Feeling like you’re a failure in relationships

When some people see that things aren’t working they become depressed. They start to feel as though they’re not loveable, that destiny is against them or that they will always be a failure in love. The truth is that you’re not a failure. You simple have not yet been taught important truths about relationships. Once you learn and practice new ideas and methods, you’ll be able to handle your life in a way you may have never thought possible.

Believing you have to be “good enough” to keep their love

Many feel they’re not “good enough”. They feel they have to turn into a pretzel to keep someone’s love. Recently a woman came to me and said, “I finally found a wonderful man but I’m miserable in the relationship. Everyday I worry that he’ll find out who I really am and leave.” This woman not only expected rejection, she actually did little things to bring it about. Soon she began to sabotage the relationship, finding fault with him at every turn. Although she didn’t realize it, she did this to feel better about herself. The truth is we can never earn another person’s love. The more we try the worse we feel. We must simply understand that who we truly are is entirely loveable. We must learn to make friends with ourselves.

Rejecting your partner so they can’t do it first

Rejecting your partner so they can't do it first
Rejecting your partner so they can’t do it first

Many reject their partners as protection individuals against being rejected themselves. The bottom line is these may not feel they deserve a relationship, they feel they can’t hold onto a partner because they haven’t accepted themselves.