How many minutes of sex is enough, and how many is too few? In public and pop culture, tales of sex that lasts all night long tend to draw low whistles and nods of approval. You may lay in bed, post-coitus with your partner, and wonder to yourself: Are we normal?
The Average Amount of Time Sex
Well, a study called “Canadian and American Sex Therapists” Perceptions of Normal and Abnormal Ejaculatory Latencies: How Long Should Intercourse Last?” has an answer. Drumroll, please: The average session of intercourse lasts anywhere from three to seven minutes, not including any, ahem, warm-up activities. This data, culled from people who see therapists for sexual problems, corresponds closely to earlier studies, which placed the average at five to seven minutes.
“Very few people have intercourse per se that goes longer than 12 minutes,” says sex therapist Barry W. McCarthy. McCarthy adds that you can extend your time and slow things down by working with your husband to hone his technique through what McCarthy calls “nonintercourse sex” (translation: manual stimulation). You also might want to try switching positions and working together to vary the speed and pattern of your love-making, but if your roll in the hay before bed regularly clocks in at 5 minutes, rest easy in knowing that’s totally normal.